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How you feel about yourself determines everything that happens in your life, so if your energy screams "I'm unconfident and unsure", your circumstances will follow suit. As a firm believer of thoughts becoming things, I've put together a guide on how to pick yourself up when you're feeling less confident than usual:
1). Words of affirmation
Writing down strong affirmations that reinforce your positive qualities is always helpful. Telling yourself you are great, beautiful and worthy allows you to take control over the situation and helps remind yourself of the amazing person you are. Even when you're feeling your normal self, you should always affirm positive beliefs about yourself. Positive affirmations should always be part of your internal dialogue as what you think about yourself follows suit in your life.
2). Don't compare
With social media platforms like Instagram and Snapchat in your face, it sometimes becomes difficult not to compare yourself with others. Never do this. I've said this before, and I'll say it again - what we see online is not real as the majority of people only document their highlights. Although that person may seem to have a perfect life, you honestly don't know what goes on behind closed doors or the private battles they face. So always try to refrain from comparing yourself to others because as they say "comparison is the thief of joy" which is so true.
This also ties into the notion of comparing your journey to someone else's. Everyone moves at different paces and everyone's journey is unique, which is what makes us all so special. When you revert your focus on to yourself and all the things you want to achieve, magic things start to take place... trust me. What you put into yourself will manifest in tenfold, so please keep your mind on YOU, and feed yourself your own positive energy.
3). Look at your peers as encouragement
Nobody is your competition. Just because someone seems to be ahead of you or doing something you'd like to be doing does not make them your competition. As women, I find that many of us like to compete with each other as opposed to encourage. Look to your peers as encouragement and inspiration, and you will feel yourself become more confident. Like I said before, it's all in your mind and how you perceive things.
4). Embrace the unknown
Some may think that being confident means being in control of your life. But not everything in your life can be controlled, and sometimes you may end up losing things your heart was set on such as a job or an opportunity. Real confidence is finding comfort in the unknown and embracing what ever life throws at you.
Confidence comes from knowing in your gut that everything happens for a reason and it will all be ok in the end. Don't ever let the prospect of the unknown scare you. It's time to get comfortable with the unknown, let the prospect of endless possibilities excite you. Fear? What's that?
5). Gratitude
When you're feeling less confident, it always helps to take a step back and give thanks for everything in your life. I like to reflect on my journey which reminds myself of just how much I've achieved so far big or small. Showing gratitude for everything in your life helps puts it all into perspective, and reminds you that everything is fine. This helps you appreciate your life and allows you to accept things as they are, which in turn boosts your self-esteem.
Now ladies... it's time to get your confidence up and snap back like the boss you are. I hope this helps!
By Malika I
We all have those moments where we may be feeling a little less confident than usual. When you're feeling low, unmotivated and a littl...
